« What do you want to do, when you will get older » , you know it by heart right?
This article points out, our journey toward our « dream job. », »the perfect major » for us or « an enjoyable and fulfilling life ».These are our ultimate goals, and seems unachievable.
First, Let’s Talk about you at school,high-school and college: struggling to find your own voice between all these courses …
Tip1 :DO YOU! BE YOU! CHOOSE YOU! and don’t look back to see if anyone is following or don’t look ahead to guess if you can capy anyone follow your intuition , your inner voice . If your heart tells you to go all in with maths , for instance; by all means , do so ; because he decides, and at the end of the day; only your happiness should be your first priority, and then others’.
how can we follow this voice so shy , what magical pill can we take for her to speak up?
Well she is indeed, however you can choose, to give her the microphones; at times and you can do it by spending time alone .Alone time is gold time , it allows you to listen more attentively, to your inner voice;that is to say, giving her the right to say NO you are not a doctor at heart YES you are a carpenter or an artistist , NO this boy is not make you happy anymore you deserve a new one , NO this attitude is not right if you want to hit the wall well go ahead but do not ask me then cuz the after service is overloaded right now… and you know what it means
The thing is ;when someone is asking you do you love what you do , and you say yes but all your being is screaming not really you need to listen to it at least right it down so that you know for yourself cuz masks are ok with others but we could not keep a mask in front of the mirror !or else it will just trick us into thinking that we are ok when we need to stop and we feel the burnout calling saying hey call the firemens cuz i am getting bigger and bigger and one day i will broke out .
tip 2 So, yes she is shy and so treat her with care , in order words take time to listen to her through alone time and reflexion , journaling and meditation and make time for her in your life.
Tip 3 be honest with yourself, you know when I was in nursing school my heart was screeming nooo my head was saying perhaps and my mouth was screaming yes to who else wanted to know what i was doing and it gets even worse when they ask you do you love what you do cuz you are struggling too much it’s not even funny
Besides, you need to look at the vehicles she takes to transmit this information and something that i am still working on is listening to my thoughts and my body.
Tip4 it is ok to experience and to fail as long as you reflect on it and learn from it .Unfortunetly , YES it won’t always come straith away! and its ok some of us knew at first sght that our boyfriend would be our loved ones but for some others it tool time and yet you might have encountered a lot of detours before you decided that this is the right onet
tip5 observe yourself on a daily basis,your personnality who you are and try to visualise where do you see yourself where you think you would fit and not what you think others would love you see or doing or working at or have an interest in.
Now let’s say that you have your degree but now the tiger ofthe working market is haunting you and you need to go right in his mouth .
My tip would be to slow down , taking a gap year in between could be a rejuvenerative and reinvigorating experience leading you to understand who you really are and what you are trully passionate about or which field you can work into.
Tip 2 analyse your path what have you being enjoying so far ans why and here it is crucial to be as specific as possible
Tip 3 let’s jump into it , you can work for free do several trainnings and approach each field with a new eye.
Tip 4 let’s these authors be your mentors and be the perfect mentee by reading and applying the advices of these experts so buy several books in your chosen field or personnal development books which could undoubtebly change your life!
Tip 5 listen to the noisy background ask your relatives where they see you cuz they know you. However, YOU MUST be picky on which one you will give your credit .Indeed, a view can built but also destroy you and your self-esteem.
tIP6- DEVELOP YOUR SELF -CONFIDENCE you know who you really are and you can also define it every day instead of waiting for others to so it and hurt you !
Now let’s say that you have found a job but your life seems crumbling everywhere and you feel like a child in front of a huge tsunami of papers of phones calls mails junk everywhere people asking and you the perfect people pleaser ready to implose!
tip 1 : well now is time for you to define your priorities and values . Not only would it help you to sort things out but it will give a direction and purpose into your life .
Tip2 Learn to delegate and learn to be organized or change your method , try another one DO something but the most important is that you need To take full charge of your life , because no one apart you is going to do it for you !So tip3 be responsible
Tip 4 get some help , I know ;I am the last one asking for help because of ego but let me tell you that ego is a false companion at times.Human being are suprising particularly , when you value their knowledges.
Now let’s say that you have your job you feel that you have your sheet together on the way to be a good adult nad now you feel stuck and lost because now thatyour environment is quite OK you feel a hurricane inside screaming where am I
Tip number one Play , playing can seem quite childish but in reality life is a game in which we play our own characters and so first you can literally play and give yourself room to explore your childhood and laugh and be yourself
Tip number 2 work -out, what are you crazy no no thisis not for me I know what you thik but sometimes a good one hour walk is the way to go to exude all tensions .
tIP number 3 music is your best friend and will help you destress.
Tip 4 EAT your favorite meal . Nowadays with this pursuit of the perfect ideal we forget that food can also be ecomforting and at times your favorite meal can do you no harm guarenteed;)
Tip5 be inspired , personally i love watching some blogs ,diy , youtube videos movies play or reading becaus they give me inspiration to adopt some better behaviors in my own life
Tip 6 be grateful gratitudes changes your outlook of the world !
Now let’s say that you feel fulfilled you have your job your sheets together but you feel stuck and a bit lost in your own skin
Tip 1:keep educating yourself, staying curious and moving forward
Tip 2:discover new passions and interests
Tip3: meet new people and get new acquintances and reinforce your relationships
Tip4:practice creative living which is emphasized in ELizabteh GUILBERT’s book entitked BIG MAGIC , that i definitely advise you to read!
Tip5:serve others which will broaden our horizons!
So I hope these tips will be helpful but remember yourself that regardless your age skin color complex physical apearence or issues you can become the best version of yourself and find your light and reveal it to the world so be patient and it all starts with YOU !!